CHRISTIAN WEDDINGS (2)


NOTE: Also there are public records and check to see if any of the players, have been bad.  I don’t mean this as condescending toward any faith but some churches need to be investigated. It’s what I do.  I write about various topics and if you go to www.aljacobsladder.com under Religion you will see some eye-openers.


BAPTIST

Your Baptist ceremony requires that the two of you be baptized Christians, and this is not an area where you can expect a lot of wiggle room. If you already belong to a Baptist church, talk to your minister about finding an appropriate house of worship to suit your needs. If you don’t belong, call several pastors to find the right church.   Baptist ministers are always in demand, and you need to search for them immediately.  

If you don’t have a minister, start investigating as soon as you’ve set the date.  They for some reason all have different agendas.
Before you start planning on where to put the new china, it’s likely that you will have to schedule pre-marital counseling, as well as marriage workshops. 

You might be asked to abstain from sex until after you are married.  Also, some Baptist ministers will not marry you if you are living together.   Show different drivers licenses.   These rules vary from minister to minister, so when you talk to pastors, be upfront and honest to avoid unnecessary problems later.  If he or she is not working with you pass, there’s another just down the block.


THE PENTECOSTAL WEDDING    
Pentecostal wedding traditions are similar to those found in other Protestant faiths, including the white bridal gown and veil; the bridal bouquet; the exchange of vows; a brief sermon by the officiating Pastor; and the partaking of the sacrament, or communion.   

The reception is held at the church hall, a private home or hotel, and commonly includes punch and wedding cake, among other refreshments. There is usually no dancing or alcohol -- not even champagne toasts -- at a true Pentecostal wedding reception.  Very stark and bizarre would be how I described it. 

Guests throw rice or birdseed at the departing newlyweds for good luck.  One I attended, blew me away.  My partner who is Methodist told me a Pentecostal joke...There is no fornication standing up, folks would think they were dancing.  
But, if you haven't witnessed a full-blown Pentecostal revival that happens to be in progress with a marriage ceremony, look out, the spirit is strong and you will witness a few caught up in it, auditioning for “  Dancing with the Stars”  or for the Dallas Cheerleaders and a few for the “Mentally Disabled Person of the Year”.

And there are a few hundred of them… I apologize if I missed yours, especially if it involves snakes, other strange customs, a tambourine extravaganza, animal rites, other heathen customs.  

They are the norm.  Most customs in the Church today came from directly I might add pagan rituals.  The snake handlers have had a bad year.  Four of their ministers promoting this abomination of the Bible have died during services showing they were believers and refused medical attention.  G-d may not have been buying it.  After all it was a snake that screwed up his initial gig.

Look in the phone book, note there are hundreds of Churches all with diverse themes and the game is wide open as to rules and regulations.  It’s not unusual for churches of the same denomination differ.  Each is an independent business.

There is no guide just as there appears to be a problem in finding the one true religion.  Find the church your affair will be taking place in.  If in the weeks before there is a wedding in that church, just pick up the monthly directory at their front door one day to find out. 

Walk in like you own the place. Dress nice, you are a friend of the groom, and observe. No one will ask, tell  them you are here to surprise and old friend.  Just sit in a back pew and follow everybody around casually using your light meter or even better a small digital, no flash to get EXIF information.  You watch the operation take place. This will give you the clues you need for the job.  Not all you need to know; the rehearsal will tell you the rest but you are one leg up on anyone else.

There is a wealth of knowledge to gather here. Some are casual, some are very strict with ground rules. For example, Pentecostal weddings can be very straight laced too and then go all out nuts. But you never know when you'll get a winner. I covered one that was so open and nuts, I got some great shots out of it.  

Scout out the church beforehand. I can’t emphasize this enough. Trying to fix things during a Wedding doesn’t work. They won’t wait while you adjust or learn to use your light meter or strobe. And remember to write it down, take notes, about time of day and any ambient light coming through the windows, plus additional light settings of the back area. You know beforehand what you are up against.  Light changes during the seasons, remember that.